‘One of the Boys’ is Dead
A Feminine Manifesto
We are pursuing the evolution of a millennial feminist (or egalitarian) movement. Equality is in its nature a fundamental contributor to Utilitarian happiness. However, it is the nuances of such an overbearing movement which we seek to pay tribute to both in steady action and intent.
The concept of tom boys and girls that are ‘NOT LIKE OTHER GIRLS’, an innocent trope reserved for ‘likable’ heroines and girls next door, is alive and kicking.
Like a wolf in sheep’s clothing, this breeds animosity between feminists – between those who support women’s choices to remain true to themselves as they wish to be, and those who believe we must appear as ‘serious’ as possible, dictating a man’s world within a woman’s sphere of autonomy.
A physical display of traditionally “feminine” traits remains a COVETED TOOL to gain male sexual attention and money
especially in pop culture.
“I’m not like other girls” – teenage girls trying to derive power by moving closer to masculinity.
Separating themselves from the status quo of what being a girl, being “feminine” is > to be taken seriously. In this new age era, it is acceptable – even ‘cool’ – to be a woman with stereo-typically masculine qualities, hobbies and pleasures – you get listened to, not looked at.
BUT, women do not want to be immediately stereotyped as girly, or ‘like other girls’.
FEMININITY MEANS SHALLOW, NARCISSISTIC, DECADENT, DITSY, BITCHY, BOY CRAZY… the list drags on.
Attributing such characteristics to femininity devalues it, perpetuates the idea that it is worthless. Girls use this as a reason not to befriend other standard girls.
2017: the tagline ‘Woman’ is generally believed to be equally valuable to the historically superior status of man- at least on paper anyway. But is this only a formality?
According to The Huffington Post, two thirds of female politicians are littered with humiliatingly sexist remarks concerning their appearance whilst political figures such as Hilary Clinton are expected to dress smartly in order to hold a firm ground of respect against their masculine counterparts. In other words, to hide any trace of their physicality under the least ‘provocative’ (aka the driest and baggiest) pantsuits known to tailors. The goal is to appear as masculine as possible whilst also adhering to hetero-normativity.
Yet, when she appeared wearing scant makeup on national television she was ironically ridiculed for not keeping up appearances- in summary, women must keep up an ultra dry, sex-less image in order to hold their ground. Yet, of course, must still be presentable and not too masculine because our image represents us, right?
‘I am this’ and ‘I believe this’ are not the same thing. You cannot label yourself a feminist yet look down on certain women who you view as conformists to hetero-normativity. Femininity, both in men and women, males and females alike, is not something that should be spurned. It is a character trait that is labelled as something it isn’t and is valuable unto itself.
If you find yourself saying ‘I’m not like other girls’, simply look further. You are sure to find an array of people who identify as girls yet also like Doc Martens, pizza and FIFA 19. Both anecdotally and statistically, you will realise that the world is a small place full of cis-gender ‘masculine’ girls who call themselves ‘one of the boys’. Therefore, you’re no special flower or ray of light. Your uniqueness doesn’t draw from that.
Masculinity does not make you stronger. And it does not necessarily make you a boy. Therefore ‘one of the boys’, a phrase coined by hipsters and bad feminists, needs to die along with the
with which feminine people are regarded.